WHY CHILDREN DO BULLYING? 

Bullying is the use of violence, threats, or coercion to abuse or intimidates others. Bullying treatment is increasingly prevalent. This disrespectful act is not only in school. Yes, bullying also occurs in work environments and even families. As a result, it cannot be underestimated, starting from children who do not want to go to school, leading to unexpected deaths. So why do people do bullying? What caused it? 

The low involvement and attention of parents to children makes children like to look for attention in the surrounding environment. According to Child & Adolescent Crime Observer, Lia Sutisna Latif, M.Psi., Psi., CGI "Children do bullying when a child lacks attention and communicates with his parents less, making him feel he is not psychologically cared for". School counselors or psychologists play a role as a mediator and provide psychological treatment of the victim, such as feeling afraid of the perpetrator. This is very important to note for those of you who will become parents to always pay attention to the child by giving sufficient attention. 

According to Dariyo (2004) Psychology Development and Education, parenting is a way of attitudes or behavior of parents when interacting with children, including teaching values/norms, giving attention and affection and showing good attitudes and behavior so that they become role models for their children. The results of the research by Carney & Merell (2001, in Smokowski & Kopaz, 2005), that most of the respondents involved in caring with authoritarian parenting, that is not responsive to the rights and needs of children, and sometimes abusive to their children or acting rude. 

According to Fakih M (2003) quoted by Widiastuti, violence against children is a form of painful physical or emotional treatment, sexual abuse, negligence that results in real or potential injury to children's health, child survival, or the dignity of the child, in the context of the relationship of responsibility , trust, or power. Handling that can be done with cognitive therapy. A therapy that can help stop negative thoughts and help fight them, this therapy aims to turn negative thoughts into positive ones and help control oneself. 

So the conclusion of bullying is an act where someone tries to hurt others by violence. In general, people do bullying because they feel less parental attention to children, wrong parenting parents to children, and become victims of violence in their parents' households. Prevention of bullying can be started from parents by teaching emotional intelligence from an early age, and counseling and therapy to prevent bullying.